MY BIG MOUTH by Ramon Tulfo
The Angono Municipal Police Station’s Facebook account recently published a post that had ten points on how women can avoid rape.
It was no surprise that Gabriela and other famous people known for their support of women’s rights would condemn such a list. It included admonitions against drinking while on a date, and wearing short skirts.
Days later, the police apologized for the anti-rape reminder, due to pressure from outside groups.
I have read the anti-rape list, and I only have one problem with it. A woman should have the freedom to wear skimpy attire, but she should be aware of her surroundings. Kahit pekpek shorts pa iyan, basta alisto siya, pwede iyan.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind if rapists are given the death sentence. But as a father, I think the list is practical.
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I feel that the advice given on the anti-rape list is not only practical, but well-meaning. It could have been written better, surely.
Gabriela could have done better as part of the process, instead of attacking it. It’s easier for them to come up with a well-written set of rules. They could have written one list for women, and one for men.
It was such a missed opportunity.
As for the Angono police, sad to say, mukhang wala silang bayag. They had an opportunity to explain themselves and stand their ground.
They meant well, but they needed a better-written list. They wasted their chance to make it better by caving in, and apologizing. Worse, they removed the list.
This situation exposes the weaknesses of both. The police should be more careful about how they approach sensitive issues. But they should also remember that they are there to enforce the law and protect the people.
If they did their jobs well, the anti-rape list wouldn’t even be needed.
Gabriela, on the other hand, should think about offering solutions without being too aggressive. Huwag masyadong papansin, gawin na lang ng tama ang trabaho para matulungan ang lahat ng kababaihan.
Naiintindihan ko ang mga hinanakit ng kababaihan. If you don’t believe me, you can ask my staff of “angels” at Isumbong Mo Kay Tulfo. We have been handling rape complaints for many years.
Again, this was a wasted opportunity to properly educate and help the Filipino people.
And to be honest, it’s not always so clear. For example, we had a complainant, a wife. Hinalay daw siya ng tatlong security guard, matapos siyang lasingin ng mga ito.
Ang tanong: bakit siya nakipag inuman kasama ang tatlong lalaki na hindi niya kamag-anak? Alalahanin, may asawa pa siya.
Another news item I remember involved a woman who was the “asawa ng bayan” in her city in Mindanao, and it turns out she was fooling around with some American sailors. She was wearing tight-fitting jeans – hard to remove! A condom, too, was used. How can a rapist use a condom? That takes time to put on!
The US sailor was eventually acquitted by the Court of Appeals, after the “victim” retracted her complaint. It turned out, she just wanted to be an American citizen.
All I can say is, we should always think before we judge people.
Pumunta ang isang babae sa isang bahay upang maningil ng pagkakautang ng may-ari ng bahay sa kanya, nang ni-raid ng mga pulis ang nasabing bahay dahil pugad pala ito ng mga drug pusher.
Kahit anong tanggi ng babae na wala siyang kinalaman sa iligal na droga, isinama pa rin siya ng mga pulis at kinasuhan.
A team of policemen and soldiers from the Task Force Habagat of the Presidential Anti-Crime Commission (PACC) raided a house in Quezon City that served as a hideout of the notorious Kuratong Baleleng holdup gang in the 1990s.
The policemen and soldiers herded all the house occupants into a van, and along Commonwealth Avenue fired hundreds of rounds into the vehicle, killing all the van's passengers on the spot.
Isa sa mga nasalvage ay lalaking teenager na bagong salta sa Maynila upang mamasukan bilang houseboy sa bahay na ni-raid. Wala siyang kaalam-alam sa ginagawa ng kanyang mga kasamahan sa bahay na mga holdaper pala ng mga bangko.
Ako, si Raffy at si Erwin ay mahahalintulad doon sa babae at lalaking teenager who were at the wrong places at the wrong times.
Nagkataon lang na ang apelyido namin ay Tulfo.
I built and nurtured the Tulfo name over the years as a hard-hitting, no-nonsense journalist. I have managed to keep my nose clean.
Isa-isang dumating ang aking mga kapatid galing ng America. Nauna si Erwin, pagkatapos ay si Raffy at nahuli si Ben. Lahat sila ay nagsunuran sa akin sa journalism.
Sumikat silang lahat dahil sa ipinakitang tapang nila sa pamamahayag. Namana namin siguro ang tapang sa aming ama na isang combat veteran sa Bataan, Sulu, Lanao at Cotabato.
Ginaya ni Raffy at lalo na si Ben ang aking style sa pagtutuligsa sa mga abusado sa gobierno at lipunan. Hinigitan pa ako nga ni Ben sa katapangan na parang wala siyang kamatayan.
Bagay kay Ben Tulfo ang magtapang-tapangan dahil siya'y naiiba sa magkakapatid. Siya'y masasabi na isang black sheep sa pamilya.
Likas na mahiyain kaming magkakapatid, pero iba si Ben. Magaling siyang magsalita. Matamis ang kanyang dila. Puede nga niyang ipagbili ang Jones Bridge at Malakanyang sa mga taong bano.
Ngayong nasasangkot si Ben at ang isa kong kapatid na si Wanda Teo sa isang iskandalo sa pera, pati kami na mga walang ka alam-alam ay nadadamay.
Nang sinabi kagabi ng presidential spokesman na si Harry Roque na inatasan na raw ng Pangulo ang mga Tulfo brothers na isauli ang perang kinuha ni Ben at Wanda sa gobierno, tumawag ako kay Roque.
Ito ang sinabi ko kay Roque sa telepono, if memory serves: "Harry, unfair namang idamay mo kaming lahat diyan, lalo na ako. Nasaktan naman si Raffy a Erwin sa sinabi mo. Bakit di mo na lang sabihin na si Ben ang may kagagawan? O si Wanda?"
Ang kasalanan lang ni Wanda ay siya'y tanga at nagpadala sa mga sales talk ni Ben. Ang buong akala ni Wanda ay mapupunta ang pera sa PTV-4 bilang commercials ng Department of Tourism, at hindi kay Ben at kanyang mga kasabwat na mga opisyal ng PTV-4.
Isa pang mali ni Wanda ay kunin ang isang abogado bilang kanyang spokesman at legal counsel na pulpol.
Meron naman kaming magaling at Bar topnotcher na kamag-anak na si Alexander Aguirre (No. 11 sa 1974 Bar Exams), pero kinuha pa ni Wanda ang isang pulpol na magaling lang sa dakdak pero walang sense ang sinasabi.
Ang abogadong ito ang nagsabi sa media na isasauli ng mga Tulfo brothers ang pera.
Buang ba siya? Bakit ko isasauli ang perang di ko naman kinuha?
The surprise inclusion of brothers Jinggoy Estrada and JV Ejercito in the "Magic 12" (Jinggoy at 5-12 and JV at 6-13) in the latest Pulse Asia survey for "senatoriables" is due to their father Erap's unsinkable popularity.
Erap is a living icon and legend and the only one who can match or surpass his charisma with the masses is Digong Duterte.
I've known Erap for many years, our friendship dating back to the martial law era. He was and still is my drinking buddy.
I'll tell you an anecdote about Erap which shows why he is a natural or one who holds no pretentiousness.
Ladies, gentlemen, and children, the following story is definitely R-rated. Ladies, you have been warned. Children in the audience need an adult present for permission to read on.
Ita-Taglish ko ang anecdote upang mas may impact sa ating mga Pinoy.
One night when he was still a senator, inimbita ko si Erap sa Impierno Disco, isang girlie bar along Mabini St., Ermita, Manila some time in 1990. If memory serves, kasama namin si Tony Gana, one of Erap's closest friends at the time.
At Impierno, which was near the defunct Ambassador Hotel, the girls performing on stage danced naked.
Nasa table kami na nakadikit sa mahabang stage kung saan pumaparada ang mga babaeng hubo't hubad.
Tandang-tanda ko pa, like it happened only yesterday: We were already tipsy when we came to Impierno and were taken to the choice table.
While we were having Erap's former favorite whiskey, Old Parr, the girl on stage noticed Erap.
The girl's stage name was Jollibee, tall and slim and pretty. Malago ang kanyang bulbol. I'd never seen such bushy pubic hair before.
Pagtapat sa table namin, binunot ni Jollibee ang kanyang bulbol, yumuko ng konti at ibinudbud ang mga ito sa baso ni Erap.
Everybody inside the bar was stunned!
You know what Erap did? He drank from the glass full of the girl's pubic hair.
That brought the house down.
Nakita ko si Erap spitting out some of the hairs and those he could not spit out he picked with his fingers from his tongue.
And then he refilled his glass with more whiskey.
The scene was repeated. Jollibee again pulled out her bulbol and ibinudbod uli sa baso ni Erap.
Again, Erap drank it and repeated the process of getting rid of the bulbol.
Again, an uproar from fellow customers!
There and then I realized Joseph Ejercito Estrada, aka Erap, would handily win if he ran for president, which was still years away.
Pulse Asia Research, Inc., has just come out today with their latest survey for the May 2019 Senatorial Elections. It is the big buzz in the local online world.
I was surprised that my name was in the seventeenth place. The survey showed that although only 81% of those interviewed were aware of me as a possible senatorial candidate, 27.1% said they would vote for me.
That put me in the 14 to 21 rank, within striking distance of the Circle of 12.
I am flattered, but I have no interest in entering politics. It is good to know that many people trust my good name.
But what is in a name?
Names have a certain power. This is very true in politics, where big names are the ones we remember.
Info graphics from Pulse Asia Reasearch, Inc.
Jinggoy Estrada and JV Ejercito are those who carry the name of Joseph "Erap" Estrada in the Senate.
Jinggoy introduced the Batas Kasambahay, which promoted standards, privileges, and rights for domestic workers. JV, on the other hand, was one of the authors of the Free Higher Education for All Act.
Even if they walk in the halls of power, they still carry with them the streetwise charisma that is the hallmark of the Estrada name.
The tale of the tape in the Pulse Asia Survey says it all. The Estradas are the ones to beat.
It is the same for Grace Poe, who carries the name of the great Fernando Poe, Jr. She is currently at the top of the survey.
Grace is known for her very active participation in various committees.
Her star power is inherited from her legendary father, FPJ.
Sara Duterte is also one of the names to beat. She is not only the President's Daughter, she is the first woman mayor of Davao.
Her fearlessness is no surprise. She is, after all, a Duterte.
These are the persons and names who are big in the survey, and with good reason. Their popularity is a testament to their influence and their values.
Again, thank you all for your trust in me. Let us all work together and help each other.
Remember, if you're in trouble, Isumbong mo kay Tulfo!
Pepsi Paloma, dancer and actress, was found hanging in her apartment.
It was May 31, 1985. Her rape case and death have become urban legends.
Her diary entries about her family and financial woes described more immediate problems. However, these diary entries were quickly dismissed.
Conspiracy theories sounded much better.
Alfie Anido was a matinee idol. He shot himself in the head in the early hours of Dec. 31, 1981. Articles at the time said that his girlfriend had just broken up with him.
There were also reports that he had hit his girlfriend. That was why she broke up with him.
However, it made for better headlines if there were problems with the girlfriend's family.
Fake news has been around for as long as newspapers have been in print. For example, the New York Sun claimed in 1835 that bat-like men and goat-like beasts with blue skin lived on the moon.
People bought the papers, because it was sensational. It was hard to confirm the story, since the observer was located in South Africa. It was not true, of course.
Later, newspapers would start reporting real news. Stories about criminal cases had to be factual. Soon all stories reported in newspapers had to have facts, unless they were the fiction pages.
The online world, however, has changed who makes the news. In the past, journalists in newspapers, radio stations, and TV channels were the gatekeepers.
Now, anyone with internet access can make their own website. They can claim that made up their stories are true. As long as it sounds right for some people, it can be seen as true.
I have said before that the online world has democratized journalism. However, we also have to be careful, since anyone can now hide behind an alias and claim anything.
Online journalists need "likes" and "views" for their business. This means that they can create fake news, without thinking of the harm they do.
We should be more careful about what we read.
Kaya ang fake news, huwag tularan. Maaaring nakamamatay.